Steven O’Neill Gives Back
Youth Spotlight - DeMario
We would love to come and share our ministry with your church, Sunday school class, civic group, school or office meeting. Call Kate Williams at 601-853-5000 ext. 1222 or email Kwilliams@mchms.org to schedule a speaker.
Gulf Coast Speaker
Burt Patterson is a retired pharmacist who seeks to serve the Lord daily. He has a passion for James 1:27, in which God tells us to help the widows and orphans. Burt lives with his wife in Ocean Springs. They have two daughters and three grandchildren. Burt has a heart for the children at the children’s homes and would love to come and share his passion for MCH with you. If you are in the Gulf Coast area, and want to know more about MCH, give Kate Williams a call at 601-853-5000 ext. 1222 to set up a speaking engagement with Burt. His enthusiasm will make you fall in love with MCH too!
Northeast Mississippi Speaker
Katie Robertson is a retired elementary teacher who has a huge heart for children who have been abused and neglected. Katie and her husband of 45 years live in Crawford, MS and attend Starkville First United Methodist Church. They have two children and five grandchildren. Katie has been the Community Bible Study Teaching Director for 10 years. The Robertson’s are co-owners of Burnt Oak Lodge, a Quail Hunting and Conference Facility.
Katie serves on MCH’s Development Committee, and her love for MCH has grown rapidly over the past 12 months. She loves speaking to others about the things she is passionate about… and the children at MCH are top on her list. If you are in the Starkville area and want to know more about MCH, give Kate Williams a call at 601-853-5000 ext. 1222 to set up a speaking engagement with Katie. Her wit and zeal will make you fall in love with MCH too!
Central Mississippi Speaker
Back to School
Board of Directors, minutes from meeting March 17, 2016
Rowell Home Move In Day
Spring 2018 Events
Fifth Annual Day of Hope
Community Day on Campus
Saturday, April 21st
9 am: Prayer Walk/Run10 am: Campus Tours
11:30 am: Lunch
12:00 pm: Program and Cake Auction
Gather a carload of church members and friends and spend the day touring our homes, enjoying lunch, a cake auction and having a great time!
Let us know you are planning to attend and RSVP on the Day of Hope event page. Click here!
This year we will host a Cake Auction to raise funds for youth Summer Activities. Cakes of all sizes, designs and flavors are encouraged. Bring your cake ready to compete! If you would like to enter a cake into the Cake Auction click here.
The Campus Prayer Walk is an opportunity to cover the MCH campus in prayer! Make the approximately quarter mile circle where our homes sit and stop at prayer stations along the way. Each station will have specific prayer requests. We will also have a prayer circle at our pavilion to give opportunity for everyone to get involved regardless of physical limitations.
For more information contact Samantha Kalahar at firstname.lastname@example.org or 601.853.5000 ext. 1222.
Jerry Jackson, LMFT
Executive Committee Minutes 12.10.15
LLC Proxy Form
Princess for a Night
Methodist Children’s Homes of Mississippi
Foster Care 101
Keshuna “I refuse to be another number”
Javaris “Mind over Matter”
Provide Youth Summer Camp
Helping Hands is our printed newsletter mailed to our loyal donors three times a year. If you would like to receive a newsletter, please make a donation every year to the Methodist Children’s Homes.
We know that some of you love sharing the story of the Methodist Children’s Homes. Please feel free to print these brochures for your church or group. Thank You for sharing the stories.
Church and Magazine Ad Inserts
We would love for you to share or ads in your church publication.
Methodist Children’s Home Minute
For over 118 years, the Methodist Children’s Homes has cared for over 11,000 children. The Methodist Children’s Homes believes that every child deserves to grow up in a place where they are safe and nurtured with compassion. At MCH abused and neglected children are given a safe place in which they can heal and thrive through provision, guidance and counseling. MCH seeks to bring restoration to children and youth who have been neglected or abused. By the end of their time with MCH they hope to see that each child finds reconciliation with their biological families, love within an adoptive family or success as a productive, independent adult. They do this by offering safe, structured and supportive home environments, life skills training and therapeutic services. You can heal with your prayers, resources and time.
Methodist Children’s Home accepts residents into a Therapeutic Group Home and a Therapeutic Foster Home. Exceptions to this are made in emergency situations with the approval of the Mississippi Department of Human Services and Mississippi Department of Mental Health. Youth 18 and older are admitted on a case-by-case basis with the approval of the Vice President of Programs and Services.
Youth that qualify for service at Methodist Children’s Home have some of the following characteristics:
· Dependent, Neglected, Need Shelter, Need Protection due to current living situation.
· Suffered some form of physical, emotional or sexual abuse.
· Having difficulty emotionally and psychologically.
· Express anger verbally and occasionally physically aggressive.
· Pregnant teens and/or teen mothers.
Youth that do not qualify for service at Methodist Children’s Home have the following characteristics:
· Currently dependent on or abusing any addictive substances
· Medically fragile, actively suicidal, psychotic or homicidal.
· Have significant physical handicaps that prevent independent mobility.
· Legal situations that ended in violent offenses and physical aggression
All referrals must go through the Mississippi Department of Human Services Placement Division. Referrals are initiated by a “Residential Service Application”.
A Voluntary/Private Placement occurs when the parents or legal guardian of a child are in need of placement services. Priority is given to referrals initiated through a United Methodist Church. All voluntary placement referrals must be approved by the President and CEO or designee.
Please send all questions regarding admissions to Christin Odom, Admissions Coordinator at email@example.com
Kim and Margaret Davis
Methodist Children’s Homes
Morrow Administrative Center
805 North Flag Chapel Road
Jackson, MS 39209
Morrow Administrative Center
Post Office Box 66
Clinton, MS 39060-0066
Looking for More?
Whether you want to send questions, comments, words of encouragement or wish to schedule a campus tour, we’d be glad to hear from you.
If you’re requesting information about becoming a foster parent, please provide your address in the “comments” section. We’ll be happy to share an information packet with you.
For information on admissions, contact us here.
See Where Hope Happens
We welcome you to come and visit the main Methodist Children’s Homes campus in Jackson, MS, and see our work in action. If you’re interested in scheduling a campus tour, please email us at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Morrow is our main building and houses all of our administrative offices.
We have a full-size gym with a hardwood basketball court, bathrooms, locker rooms and a pool.
Our traditional style church has seating for 200 and features a sound system and piano.
Our cafeteria can seat 150 people and is used for meetings and activities, as well as campus-wide dining. We have a small stage and a full-service industrial kitchen with convection stove griddle, convection oven with warmers.
Our Owens Home houses up to 10 boys. There are two boys to each bedroom, which has an attached bathroom. Owens has wide hallways, a recently renovated kitchen and a large living/dining area.
Our Rowell Home houses up to 10 boys. There are two boys to each bedroom, which has an attached bathroom. Rowell has wide hallways, a recently renovated kitchen and a large living/dining area.
Our McCarty Home can house up to 10 girls at any given time. This is a traditional ranch style home with five bedrooms, staff office, kitchen and a living/dining room. Each girl shares her bedroom with one other girl.
Our Waits Home can house up to 10 girls and has a traditional ranch-style exterior. This home is our latest completed renovation. The house has wide hallways, a kitchen and large living/dining room. Each bedroom has its own bathroom, and two girls share a room.
Join Our Mission
“Every child deserves a champion — an adult who will never give up on them, who understand the power of connection, and insists that they become the best that they can possibly be.”— Rita F. Pierson
If you’ve ever wanted to be a champion to a child, join the Methodist Children’s Homes’ staff and work to restore their childhoods.
Click here to view Current Open Positions
Stay Plugged In
When you join our mailing list, you’ll be regularly informed about MCH and our work. You’ll receive our newsletters and invitations to special events. Don’t worry — your information is kept safe with us. We will not distribute it to anyone outside of Methodist Children’s Homes.
From Wishes to Reality
Every year, we receive thoughtful non-monetary donations that contribute to improving the lives and care of our children and youth.
If you would like to get others involved in giving, call our offices and we will help you host a gift drive at your church or company.
The Methodist Children’s Homes is a 501c3 nonprofit organization. All donations are tax deductible.
Needs for Therapeutic Residential Care
First Aid Kits
Bars of Soap, Bottles of Shampoo and Conditioner, Deodorant, Dental floss
Bedrooms Items (Standard Size Pillows, Hangers, Clothes Baskets)
Bathroom Items(Towels , Wash Clothes, Flat Irons, Curlers)
Kitchen Items (Pots and Pans, Serving Platters, Plates/Bowls, Plastic Tumblers, Cups, Dish washing Liquid, Brooms/Dust Pan, Dish Towels, Tall Kitchen Garbage Bags, Outdoor Garbage Bags, Paper Towels, Batteries, Cleaning Supplies)
Living Room Items (Wii Games, DVD’s, One Karaoke Machine, Zumba DVD, Xbox, Xbox Games,)
Band-aids, Medical tape (reg. and paper), Ace bandages, Tongue depressors, Rolls of paper for exam tables, Hand Sanitizer, Clorox wipes, Individual Alcohol Pad Packets)
Needs for Therapy
Weighted Blankets - Used for youth that come in on the autism spectrum. Click Here to Order
Puppets for therapy with younger kids (Click Here to Order)
Therapy DVD Sets (Click Here to Order)
Therapy DVD Sets (Click Here to Order)
Emotions Thumball (Click Here to Order)
How Do You Feel Puzzle (Click Here to Order)
Teen Talk (Click Here to Order)
Totika Ice Breaker Game (Click Here to Order)
Therapy Games (Click Here to Order)
Needs for Foster Care
Diapers Size New Born to Size 5, Fire extinguisher, Fire Alarms
$50 Walmart Gift Cards – Sometimes children come to us with only the clothes on their back. In these situations, we like to give the foster care parents a gift card so they can purchase the basic necessities for their child.
Four-Door Car (Used to take children in foster care to visitations, doctors appointments, court, etc)
Needs for Maintenance
80 Gallon Air Compressor
Truck Bed Heavy Duty Side Tool Boxes (Click for example)
Tractor Attachments(Finish Mower, Back Hoe)
Nail Gun Set (Framing Gun to Brad Nailer)
Needs for Campus Life
Small Pool Vest
Inflatable Movie Screen (example)
Portable Sound System (Yamaha StagePas 400i or 600i)
Recreational Activities (Tickets to movies, bowling, putt-putt golf, etc.)
Birthday and Christmas Gifts
Sport Items (Basketballs, Soccer balls, Footballs, etc.)
Bath and Body Works Gift Sets
Ear Bud Headphones
Gift Cards (Walmart, Target, etc.)
Teen Appropriate DVDs
Can’t make it to our campus?
Order items from our Amazon wish list and it will automatically shipped to Methodist Children’s Homes! Click here to shop for MCH!
Circle of Protection
Dedicated Monthly Giving
Our Circle of Protection program is a way for supporters to donate monthly gifts to Methodist Children’s Homes. When you join the Circle of Protection program, your gift goes toward creating a safe place for children to thrive and feel loved.
Guardian $15.00 a month (just .50 a day)
Give the gift of smiles by providing a special birthday party and gifts for our youth. For many of our youth it will be their first birthday party.
Defender $30.00 a month (just $1.00 a day)
Give the gift of laughter by providing campus activities and social outings for our youth to build life-long friendships and memories.
Protector $50.00 a month ($1.64 a day)
Meet the vital needs on our campus and provide for household expenses and upkeep of one of our homes.
Hero $100.00 a month ($3.28 a day)
Aid in breaking the generational cycle of abuse by giving a child a safe and secure home at Methodist Children’s Homes
Friend _____ Other Amount
You can customize your monthly gift.
After these specific needs are met, your gift will go directly to meeting the ongoing needs of our children. Every dollar helps bring hope back to a child’s life. We are grateful for your support!
Your contribution to Methodist Children’s Homes goes directly to giving our children back their childhood.
Our online donation form is secure, but if you prefer to mail your check, please send it to P.O. Box 66, Clinton, MS 39060.
MCH Advocates are passionate about promoting the mission of Methodist Children’s Homes. They work to educate, encourage and invite others in the community to take part in our ministry.
- Our advocates educate the community about Methodist Children’s Homes by:
- Inviting speakers on behalf of MCH to their churches, civic organizations or community groups
- Writing an article featuring MCH for their church newsletters or community newspapers
- Creating displays and bulletin boards about MCH’s mission.
- Using social media to ask for prayers for our foster families, staff and residents and their families
Our advocates encourage others to support Methodist Children’s Home financially through:
- Honors and Memorials
- Estate Planning
- Organized fundraisers
Our advocates invite others to get involved by:
- Planning campus tours
- Volunteering at events
- Finding individual volunteers and work groups
Methodist Children’s Homes encourages you to join together as a community to help our cause. A MCH fundraiser is the perfect event to hold with your church, office or community group. Through creative fundraisers, you can have a direct and positive impact on the lives of our children.
- Dedicate Your Birthday
- Host a Dinner
- Host a 5K
- Bake Sale
- Rummage Sale
- Mud Volleyball
- Host a Garden Party
- Dodgeball Fundraiser
- Lemonade Stand
- Company Events
- Dress Down Fridays — each employee to donate $1 gets to dress casually on a Friday
- Wacky Management Moments — set a fundraising goal and if your organization can meet it, ask your boss to do something extreme. Pie to the face, dunk tank or crazy costume - the possibilities are endless!
- Lunchtime or After-Work Zumba — do something active and healthy while raising money for MCH!
We welcome creative fundraising events to bring your communities together to support Methodist Children’s Homes!
After Your Fundraiser…
- Download and fill out our fundraising form.
- Choose your payment method.
- Send us your donation and your completed form so we can send you a thank you for your hard work!
Pay online here (donation link) and email the form to Kate Williams, Kwilliams@gmail.com OR mail the check and form to:
Methodist Children’s Homes of Mississippi
Attn: Kate Williams
PO Box 66
Clinton, MS 39060-0066
Dedicated and Steadfast
Volunteer work is vital to the work of Methodist Children’s Homes. Over the past year, our volunteers have dedicated priceless time and energy to everything from renovating our cottages and beautifying our grounds to providing birthday parties and bible studies.
If you or your church group is interested in volunteering, please email Mandy Bufkin at MBufkin@mchms.org.
Opportunities to Serve
We always need volunteers to help with chapel and worship time, bible studies, tutoring, life skills classes and leading and organizing sports and game events on campus.
Volunteers help out in our office by writing and stuffing letters, making phone calls and filing paperwork.
Our campus events aim to boost self-esteem, community togetherness and a familial atmosphere. Volunteers team up with us to put on birthdays, holiday celebrations, summer events, movie and game nights, weekend recreation and other fun activities!
If you have construction and renovation skills, we need your talents. In the past, volunteers have been responsible for renovating homes, providing better living spaces for our children and youth. Smaller projects, such as painting, patching and maintenance, are also always available.
We want to help you help us. Tell us you skills and abilities, and we will do our best to pair you up with the perfect volunteer project that puts your gifts to good use.
Leave a Legacy
Give to the Heart of the Matter
Types of Legacy Giving
· Add the Methodist Children’s Homes of MS to documents you already have in place, or plan to put in place.
· Include a bequest to Methodist Children’s Homes of MS in your Will or Revocable Trust.
· Designate the Methodist Children’s Homes of MS as beneficiary of your Retirement Assets - IRA, 401(k), 403(b) or pension.
· Name the Methodist Children’s Homes of MS as a beneficiary of your Life Insurance policy.
· Designate the Methodist Children’s Homes of MS as a beneficiary of a Bank account(s).
· Gifting specific property to the Methodist Children’s Homes of MS such as: real estate, stocks, and other securities, art, antiques and other collectables.
Ways to Give bequest
· Give a percentage of your estate.
· Give a particular dollar amount of specific asset.
· Leave the balance of residue of your estate after other distributions are made and expenses are covered.
· Reduce your taxable estate by the amount given to the Methodist Children’s Homes of MS.
· Make a significant gift to the Methodist Children’s Homes of MS and designate how it should be used.
· Experience the satisfaction of knowing you can continue to support the Methodist Children’s Homes of MS long after you are gone.
· Create a legacy that changes lives for generations to come.
1. Receive your free personal workbook by emailing Kate Williams at email@example.com.
2. Take the completed workbook and all necessary paperwork to your lawyer to create your will or trust.
3. If you are planning on adding MCH as a beneficiary to your retirement assets, life insurance or bank account please contact your insurance provider, retirement plan administrator, and/or bank or financial institute to fill out the appropriation beneficiary designation forms.
Sample Bequest Language:
I hereby give to United Methodist Ministry with Children and Families, Inc. (DBA. Methodist Children’s Homes of MS) PO Box 66 Clinton, MS 39060 (the sum of $_____________) or (______% of the residue of my estate,) to be used for its general purposes.
The Methodist Children’s Homes would love to answer all your questions, please email us at firstname.lastname@example.org or call 601-853-5000 ext. 1222.
Community Counseling Services
Methodist Children’s Homes Community Counseling Services provides the community with dedicated professionals who counsel individuals, families, couples and groups.
MCH counselors work with ages 3 to 21 years old who experience an array of mental health symptoms including:
- Trauma and Grief
- Anxiety Disorders
- Adolescent Disorders
- Mood Disorders
- Depression Counseling
Therapeutic Services Include:
- Individual Therapy
- Family Therapy
- Group Therapy
- Multi-family Therapy
- Therapeutic Team (consulting child psychiatrist, a consulting psychologist, social worker, clinical therapists, and nurse)
- Targeted Case Management
- Twenty-four hour Emergency Crisis Services
Methodist Children’s Homes Campus - 805 North Flag Chapel, Jackson MS
Monday – Friday 8:30 am – 5:30 pm
Call to find out about late hours.
Arrange your FREE Consultation
Please call 1-844-817-3521 or email@example.com. A consultation will be scheduled with our program staff to assess the child’s difficulties and make recommendations for treatment. Fees are payable through private pay or Medicaid.
Therapeutic Day Treatment
Methodist Children’s Homes (MCH) Day Treatment Program is designed to meet emotional, social, spiritual and mental health needs of children between ages 12 and 18 who are exhibiting problematic behaviors.
The EQUIP Model curriculum emphasizes two techniques that promote positive behaviors and coping techniques.
1. Mutual Support Group, which are therapeutic group sessions derived from the Positive Peer Culture (PPC) program and components from Aggression Replacement Training (ART). Sessions aim to foster a climate for change where individual reduce their self-destructive behaviors and instead utilize behaviors that help others and themselves.
2. Equipment Training Session, focuses on training social skills, anger management, and moral reasoning.
MCH Day Treatment Offers:
· 10 week interactive course (2 hours a day, 5 days a week)
· Structured Program
· Individual and Family Counseling
· Social Skills Training
· Group Therapy
· Treatment Team
Benefit of Services:
· Serves an alternative to inpatient care
· Serves as a transition from inpatient care to outpatient care
· Keeps the child in the home while providing therapeutic programming
Who Qualifies for Services
MCH Day Treatment professional staff have the experience and expertise to work with adolescents who:
· Have a history of complex trauma
· Have been diagnosed with a Serious Emotional Disturbance (SED)
· Have difficulties dealing with the impact of sexual abuse including issues of truest, fearfulness, and acting out behavior.
How to Participate
For more information or to participate in the Day Treatment program, call 601.853.5000 ext. 1036. A consultation will be scheduled with our program staff to assess the child’s difficulties and make recommendations for treatment. Fees are payable through private pay or Medicaid.
Located on the MCH campus – 805 N. Flag Chapel Rd, Jackson MS.
For more information contact: MCH Day Treatment (601) 853-5000 ext. 1036
Therapeutic Foster Care
What does a foster family mean to you?
“It’s about my entire life, it’s not just about my childhood. I want to know that I am going to have a dad or brother as my best man in my wedding. That my children will have grandparents.” – Jonathan, 15
Therapeutic Foster Home
A Therapeutic Foster Home is a licensed and certified home to care for children with physical, emotional or behavioral difficulties. Therapeutic Foster Care is an intensive mental health service provided to a child in a family setting utilizing specially trained foster parents.
MCH is always looking for mission-driven foster parents who will provide stable and loving homes for our children. You can make a difference in the lives of children by opening your heart and home to them!
To become a foster parent, you must:
- 21 or older
- married (1+ years), divorced (1+ years) or single
- a high school diploma or GED
- reliable telephone service and transportation
- financial means to support a family
- complete all training requirements
Where Do I Start?
If you’re interested in providing a home and support for children as a foster parent, please contact Kim Day at Kday@mchms.org or by phone at 601-853-5000 ext. 1260. We’ll guide you every step of the way!
Foster Care Application - Return completed application to Sha Brown at firstname.lastname@example.org or mail to PO Box 66, Clinton, MS 39060.
Therapeutic Residential Care
For over a century, Methodist Children’s Homes has cared for Mississippi’s most vulnerable children. During this time we have worked to restore and provide for thousands of children who have suffered severe trauma.
Approach to Care
By offering safe, structured and supportive home environments, life skills training and therapeutic services, we promote healing and help children find permanent stability — emotionally, physically, mentally and spiritually. Our trauma-informed cognitive behavioral model of care guides practice in all of our homes and emphasizes a holistic approach to ministry.
Who We Serve
- Children and young adults ages 10-21
- Those from neglected backgrounds
- Physically, emotionally or sexually abused children
- Defiant, verbally and/or physically aggressive youth
Our Therapeutic Residential Care program serves abused and neglected children from ages 10 to 21. These homes offer a safe, secure place for children not only to escape unfortunate circumstances, but also to heal from the past, thrive and prepare for the future.
- Spiritual guidance
- Psychiatric needs
- Preparation for independent living
- Recreation and life skills opportunities
- Specialized services
Therapeutic Residential Care Program
Children in Therapeutic Residential Care are given academic support, preparation for living independently, therapeutic and psychiatric support, spiritual guidance, life skills training and recreational opportunities.
This program is specifically designed for young men and women ages 17 to 21. Its goal is to ease the transition from high school to college or to the workforce by providing instruction in budgeting, household management and job skills so that they can live independently as responsible adults.
MCH’s Two of Us program provides care for young women, ages 10 to 19, who are either pregnant or parenting. Like many of our children, these women come to us through the Department of Human Services because they were no longer safe in their homes.
Independent Residential Living Program
This program helps transition our kids from high school to college or the work force. Our independent living program is designed for females between the ages of 16 to 21. Our goal is to provide training, such as budgeting, household management, and job skills that will enable our young people to live independently once they have reached adulthood.
Board of Directors
Nick Myers, Past Board Chair
Rev. Clint Ware
Honorable Judge John Hudson
Dr. Kristin Brown
A Mission of Hope
Through Jesus Christ, Methodist Children’s Homes brings hope and healing to hurting children in Mississippi.
Methodist Children’s Homes seeks to bring restoration to children and youth who have been neglected or abused. By the end of their time with us, we hope to see that they find reconciliation with their biological families, love within an adoptive family or success as a productive, independent individual.
A Lasting Legacy
Methodist Children’s Homes has been providing care and love for children and families in Mississippi since 1896. Originally an orphanage, MCH has cared for more than 11,000 children for over a century. We have grown from our original location in Water Valley to multiple homes across the state, and our primary campus is now in Jackson. The legacy of Methodist Children’s Homes has always been that of Christ-centered, generous love — something that will never change.
Our Core Values are:
Do what is right, honest, and respectful regardless of the situation.
Be kind and loving in all interactions.
Commit to helping those we lead and those we follow.
Create an environment that promotes physical, emotional, and spiritual wellbeing.
Work together in a way that maximizes accountability, stewardship, and communication.
Methodist Children’s Homes is licensed by the Mississippi Department of Child Protection Services and the Mississippi Department of Mental Health.
Pray for the Children at the home
Pray for the awareness, coupled with the joy that comes from fulfilling God’s mandates to care for the fatherless.
Pray that more families will open their homes and hearts as foster parents.
Pray that our staff and teachers continue to prepare and equip our children educationally to be the best that they can be.
Pray for each one of our children as they overcome past abuse and help them combat low self-esteem, emotional pain, self-harm, fears, doubt and anger.
Pray for our children’s families especially, that they will seek reconciliation and reunification.
Pray that God puts people in the family members’ path to share Christ with them.
Pray that God uses the church’s bible studies and chapels to bring about new salvations and discipleship.
Pray specifically for our children and their immediate sphere of influence.
Pray for each one of our children’s spiritual growth.
Pray for our children’s families as they seek reconciliation or deal with the separation.
Pray for the staff at the Methodist Children’s Homes
Pray that the Lord will continue to give us His vision for our children and our ministry.
Pray that our staff will be intentional with sharing Christ with our children.
Pray for our staff and their responsibility as role models to our children.
Pray for wisdom for our leadership team as they make decisions that affect our children.
Pray that God will continue to provide financially for the Methodist Children’s Homes.
Pray for wisdom of our staff as they care for each one of our children.
Pray that our staff is reminded and renewed with the mission of why we minister to our children.